You can only lose what you cling to.
But what you do with that hurt is probably more important than the hurt itself. Would you prefer to get back to being an active liver of life?
Or do you prefer to ruminate endlessly about the past and something that cannot be changed? In short, how do you let go of past hurts and move on? Somebody did something wrong, or they wronged us in some way that mattered to us.
We want them to apologize. We want them to acknowledge what they did was wrong. But blaming someone else for our hurt can backfire, as Holly Brown notes: The problem with blaming others is that it can often leave you powerless.
All your feelings are legitimate. Nursing your grievances indefinitely is a bad habit, because as the title goes it hurts you more than it hurts them.
People who hold on to these past hurts often relive the pain over and over in their minds. If your heart is filled full-up with pain and hurt, how can you be open to anything new? Make the decision to let it go. Making the conscious decision to let it go also means accepting you have a choice to let it go.
To stop reliving the past pain, to stop going over the details of the story in your head every time you think of the other person after you finish step 2 below. This is empowering to most people, knowing that it is their choice to either hold on to the pain, or to live a future life without it.
Express your pain — and your responsibility. Get it all out of your system at once. Doing so will also help you understand what — specifically — your hurt is about. While you may not have had the same amount of responsibility for the hurt you experienced, there may have been a small part of the hurt that you are also partially responsible for.
What could you have done differently next time? Are you an active participant in your own life, or simply a hopeless victim?
Will you let your pain become your identity? Or are you someone deeper and more complex than that??
Stop being the victim and blaming others. Yes, your feelings matter. You need to take responsibility for your own happiness, and not put such power into the hands of another person. Why would you let the person who hurt you — in the past — have such power, right here, right now?
No amount of rumination of analyses have ever fixed a relationship problem. So why choose to engage in so much thought and devote so much energy to a person who you feel has wronged you? Focus on the present — the here and now — and joy.
Let go of the past, and stop reliving it. When you focus on the here and now, you have less time to think about the past. When the past memories creep into your consciousness as they are bound to do from time to timeacknowledge them for a moment.
And then bring yourself gently back into the present moment.But if Pence is really committed to Americans developing and maintaining a strong, genuine sense of our history, then he should rule against statues that distort our past.
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Letting go of Dirk Nowitzki and remembering greatness Manu Ginobili’s hand on his wrist like someone trying to hold back history. At the time it meant everything, and it should have meant. No matter how much we want things to stay the same, life is all about change.
Sometimes change is for the better, and sometimes its not.
But no matter why things are changing, we need to be able to let go and move on. Whether it’s the death of a loved one, a painful breakup, a business failure, or. Letting Go of the American Youth Ministry Dream. Darren DePaul April 29, Back to Blog. Letting Go of the American Youth Ministry Dream April 29, Share: I don’t want to be trendy.
I don’t want to be the youth pastor with that one slick line every week that will get tweeted. but the sad reality is not all students want us.